Ethan was 32 years old, a successful architectural project manager in San Diego, and for years he had lived with the firm belief that everything he did was for his family’s good.

When his father died five years earlier, Ethan stepped into a role most men his age would avoid: he became the sole provider. He handled every expense, supported his mother, Mrs. Linda, and fully financed the lives of his three younger sisters—Olivia, 25; Madison, 22; and Chloe, 19.