When Vanessa and I got married, she had terrible credit, unstable income, and two maxed-out cards she hid from me until after the honeymoon. I still loved her then, believed in solving problems together. When the opportunity came to purchase Patricia’s dream home from a distant relative before it officially hit the market, Vanessa begged me to help make it happen. She said owning that house would stabilize us, give her mother security, benefit all of us if we treated it as a stepping stone.