But I said, “Because she was being selfish.”

Thanksgiving afternoon, instead of sitting at my parents’ polished dining table pretending nothing had happened, Sophie and I went to my college friend Rachel’s house. Rachel lived twenty minutes away with her husband, their twin boys, two loud dogs, and a kitchen that smelled like butter, sage, and cinnamon. Sophie ran around the backyard in borrowed mittens, shrieking with the twins while the dogs chased leaves. No one told her to lower her voice. No one apologized for her existence. When she spilled cider on the table runner, Rachel laughed, handed her a towel, and said, “Congratulations, now it’s officially Thanksgiving.”