The sound of the fabric tearing was so dry and brutal that for a moment I felt like the whole kitchen was splitting in two.

I stood motionless in the doorway, the garment bag still dangling from one hand, watching my mother-in-law, Linda Hayes, rip the cream-colored silk blouse I’d just taken out of the car off its hanger. She held it up as if it were evidence of a crime, her lips pressed tightly together and her eyes blazing with fury. And without a second thought, she tore it from top to bottom.