My grandmother stared at my worn hoodie, my scuffed shoes, and the secondhand blanket wrapped around my nine-month-old daughter. Then she asked a question that made the entire Thanksgiving dinner go silent.

“Wasn’t the $180,000 I sent you enough?”

I thought she had confused me with someone else.

I stood in my aunt Patricia’s entryway with Lily sleeping against my chest. My old gray hoodie had a broken zipper. My sneakers were so worn that the soles had started separating at the edges.