Then I asked if Ryan had ever touched her himself. She answered too quickly: “No.” “Mom. Look at me.” She touched her cheek. “He pushed me once.”

The words hollowed me out. Two nights earlier, after Vivian complained dinner was late, Margaret told Ryan she was not his servant. He told her to stop disrespecting his mother, grabbed her shoulder, and she stumbled into a cabinet. My husband had put his hands on my mother.