Twelve days after my husband died, I caught my neighbor climbing over my fence with bags full of his apples. I thought she wanted the fruit—until she mentioned a secret from 27 years ago.

My husband, Daniel, treated our apple trees like members of the family.

Every September, he walked through the garden with a pair of pruning shears in his back pocket, inspecting branches and turning apples in his palm as if they might tell him when they were ready.