The brass padlock on my refrigerator was the moment I realized my marriage had turned into an occupation. My mother-in-law stood behind me with her arms crossed and said, “To eat in this house, you ask permission.”

For six weeks, Lorraine and her thirty-four-year-old son, Trevor, had been “staying temporarily” while Trevor searched for work. That was how my husband, Daniel, presented it to me: two weeks, maybe three, just until Trevor found something.