By the time my sister shouted, “Tell your daughter to stop crying—she’s spoiling Easter for the other kids,” my six-year-old, Lily, was standing in the center of my kitchen with mud dripping from the bottom of her pale yellow dress.

It was far more than a small splash.

Her cousins, eight-year-old twins Mason and Miles, had pulled her toward the backyard puddles because she refused to hand them the chocolate rabbit from her basket.