My parents texted me at 8:12 on the morning of their fortieth wedding anniversary.

“Don’t come tonight. Only high-society guests will be there. We don’t want things to feel awkward. Oh, and Julian RSVP’d yes. It’s best you avoid him.”

I read the message twice, my thumb hovering over the cracked screen of my phone. I was thirty-six, unmarried, and—in my parents’ curated version of my life—still “doing some little computer project in a medical garage.”