As guests filled our home, whispering condolences to my dry-eyed parents, I was in the kitchen, furiously plating hors d’oeuvres and refilling champagne flutes. I didn’t even get to say a proper goodbye to the only woman who had ever shown me a shred of gentleness.

Two days after the funeral, we were summoned to the downtown offices of Sterling & Croft, the law firm that had managed my grandmother’s estate for decades.