My grandmother died on a Tuesday, and by Thursday, her living room looked like an estate sale.

I remember standing in the doorway with a casserole dish still warm in my hands, watching my cousin Renee hold grandma’s pearl earrings up to the light like she was appraising them at a pawn shop. My aunt Carol had already claimed the silver tea set — the one grandma used exactly twice a year, at Christmas and on my grandfather’s birthday — and wrapped each piece in dish towels like she’d been planning the move for months.