We’ve been married two years, and every first Saturday of the month, my husband, Mark, vanishes for a few hours. “Running errands,” he says, or “Helping my aunt.” I never questioned it—he’d always come home with groceries or a fresh bakery bag, smelling of sourdough and cinnamon.

But last month, I asked to tag along. His face tensed, a muscle in his jaw jumping. “You know my aunt doesn’t really like you, so it’s better you doesn’t come,” he muttered before driving off. The words stung. I’d barely spoken to his Aunt Sarah more than three times, but I’d never felt any hostility.