Three weeks after I walked down the aisle, the illusion of my perfect marriage shattered over a cup of Earl Grey tea.

The afternoon light filtered through the heavy velvet drapes of the Pembroke family townhouse in Boston’s Back Bay. It was a historic, suffocating property filled with polished antique furniture, framed family crests, and decorative rooms that seemed designed to judge visitors rather than welcome them. I sat on a stiff, floral-patterned sofa, wearing a modest pastel dress that I knew my mother-in-law, Lorraine Pembroke, would approve of.