By nine o’clock on a rain-soaked Thursday morning, Courtroom Four of the Fairfax County Courthouse in Virginia was nearly filled to capacity.

People had gathered because our divorce had turned into a modest local sensation.

My husband, Preston Hayes, was the polished, widely respected chief executive of Hayes Atlantic Transit, one of the fastest-expanding transportation companies on the East Coast. His face appeared regularly in business journals, charity brochures, and glossy photographs taken beside senators and governors at fundraising dinners.