You never tell a mother who has lost her boys that time will eventually make the grief disappear.

Seven years ago, my husband, Daniel, took our sons on a fishing trip and promised they would be home before dinner.

None of them ever came back.

The years after they vanished were already unbearable without everyone around me constantly telling me that I needed to accept the possibility that I would never see them again. Search-and-rescue teams dragged the lake, divers explored the water, and volunteers walked mile after mile along the shoreline. Meanwhile, neighbors and relatives brought casseroles, flowers, and words of sympathy.