My father left when I was young and I learned not to expect much from him after that. But when he offered to walk me down the aisle, I let myself believe—just for a moment—that maybe he was ready to show up. I couldn’t have been more wrong.

When I pictured my wedding day, I thought the tears would come when I saw my husband waiting at the altar — not while standing alone on the dance floor, begging my father with my eyes as the DJ announced the father-daughter dance.